Are you just promoted in your Job? Then you must know these

I think we all kinda sorta know these things (hopefully):

  • Feedback at work is often pretty fraught

This isn’t universally true, no. But I’d say it’s true in more cases than not. Most managers aren’t good at communicating, usually because they have their eye on whatever can benefit them (some KPI). Communication drops in the process, no one on the team knows what is expected of them, and work becomes overly challenging. What I just described is actually normative for a lot of people, unfortunately.

But managers aren’t getting better. 82 percent of them are the wrong hire. Globally, about 15 percent of people feel “engaged” in their job. You can argue with what “engagement” means, yes. But 15 percent is terrible. A lot of that is because their direct manager is terrible. This isn’t rocket science.

Why aren’t managers getting better? Lots of reasons, with №1 being “No one cares if a manager is people-effective so long as they’re product-effective.” Organizations don’t really care about people. They care about making money and the top people care about perks. That’s the basic deal. Managers are cogs in the middle. Some might rise up and get minted, but most don’t/won’t. That’s the game. If you pretend it isn’t the game, you’re just lying to yourself.

One of the other reasons is that training tends to be bad. We actually train people to be managers — train conductors and spreadsheet jockeys — instead of training them to be leaders. Fundamental flaw but “That’s how we’ve always done it!”

A lot of managers, I’d reckon, have never really been trained on how to have a conversation. You’d hope people don’t need to be trained on this, but many people do.

What if we could give managers some actionable advice on what to do?

Now we can!

The question to ask

Long, good article here about a lady who manages hundreds at NerdWallet. It’s mostly about asking better questions and rising up to meet challenges. Long, good, and detailed. Read it if that stuff interests you.

One of the main questions she asks is this simple but beautiful gem:

What’s currently harder than it should be?

She notes:

People will trust if they believe their managers genuinely care and want to help. “It’s our job to care. That’s how we help people do their best work and grow. That makes them more valuable to our company and in the job market. That’s a fair trade.”

Wow. I just openly wept.

Here’s what most managers do around this stress situation, for example:

  • “I know you’ve been stressed. Hang in there!” (no attempt to solve the problem)

Now look above. If you ask “what’s currently harder than it should be,” here’s what you could learn:

  • Who is legitimately stressed

Isn’t this better than vague bullshit about how “we’re all putting in the work together?”

Why don’t more managers do this, then?

Partial list:

  • Don’t know

I’m sure there are other reasons, but those were the first ones that jumped out.

Could we make training better and incorporate these elements?

Probably not cookie-cutter HR training, no.

But we could certainly do this at the micro-level: have managers develop a toolkit of effective questions they ask to learn about direct reports. The toolkit is then shared. Pretty easy, right? If you’re stuck as a manager, look at the toolkit — or know who to approach and speak with.

I’d lead with this question above, though. Stress is pervasive and kills teams/productivity. Managers are often horrific at managing stress and constant change. But this one Q seems like it would go a decently long way.

Your take?



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